This part of my life seems like so long ago. The lessons it taught are a very part of my person, alongside the values I learned from my parents and from my faith. But the reality of being a Marine seems foreign to me now. Because of that distance, it's hard for me to come to grips with stories like this:

"AL ASAD, Iraq (Jan. 21, 2008) – Sgt. Maj. Susan Bellis, sergeant major, Marine Wing Support Group 27, 2nd Marine Aircraft Wing, retires MWSG-27’s colors during a transfer of authority ceremony Jan. 21. MWSG-27 transferred authority to their west coast based counterpart MWSG-37."
You see, I first met (then) Staff Sergeant Bellis at Fort Devens, Massachusetts in the Fall of 1991. She was the NCO in charge of the students sent there to learn Signals Intelligence as a Military Occupational Specialty. She was fresh off the drill field in Parris Island as a very accomplished Senior Drill Instructor and I was fresh off the drill field in San Diego as a very young Marine struggling to come to grips with the difference between being a recruit and being a Marine.
Needless to say, I have fond memories of SSgt Bellis in that role, but make no mistake, she was the toughest Marine I had come across to that point and she scared the living daylights out of me. I graduated a few months later and I thought we were saying goodbye for the last time. Not so.
After a few years in Misawa, I was stationed at Kaneohe Bay in Hawaii. Gunnery Sergeant Bellis was there as well and I ended up in MEWSS platoon where she was the top NCO. She was still tough as nails, but I think my maturity and her time away from the drill field allowed us to communicate more effectively and from my perspective, our relationship really helped me to make the absolute most of my six years in the Marines.
Now, here I am, an out of shape "civvy" and she's still a Marine - making the world a better place to live for me, my wife, my children, and everybody. She's the reality of what I could have become had I chosen that path. I didn't choose that path - but her leadership and her guidance is still a very important part of the man I am today.
Semper Fi, Sergeant Major Bellis.